Are you unconsciously limiting your career?

Are you unconsciously limiting your career?

Have you ever thought “I work really hard and I’ve got all the commitment and enthusiasm. Why am I not where I want to be?”

Through all of my training and coaching work, I’ve found time and time again that the stumbling blocks are significantly deeper than people realise. So much so, they’re not even consciously aware of what’s actually holding them back.

As a Master Practitioner of NLP and NLP Coach, I work with people to discover any conscious or unconscious limitation that’s holding back progress.

We’re not always aware of what’s driving our behaviours. The other day I was coaching a client’s employee, working on a lack of energy at certain points of the working day. She thought she knew what it was but the outcome was staggeringly different.

Using an NLP technique, we went back to one memory from when she was 6 years old. There was nothing particularly significant about that memory (at a logical level), but unconsciously that moment had defined her behaviours.

The deeper mind is extremely powerful. When the right questions are asked, you can open the right door in the mind to see what’s needed to change habits and behaviours.

After we cleaned up the memory, the subconscious changed. The memory was able to go back into the filing system in a clean state and she was able to make the changes she wanted.

Seeing her energy and sparkle at the end of the session was incredible!

Once the technique was completed, she went into immediate gratitude saying how much lighter and clearer she felt. She hadn’t realised that she’d been carrying that around and didn’t know it had any significance.

The relief for her was huge. She went out beaming and the few times I’ve seen her since she made sure to let me know that she feels more empowered, energetic, and confident than ever before. Not only that, but she’s been getting great feedback from her colleagues and management team.

So, do you think you’re unconsciously limiting your career?

Leader talking to their team and using techniques to stop limiting their results

How to find the invisible career limitation

There are different subconscious causes of limitations. These limitations could be one or all of the following:

  • Values
  • Beliefs
  • Memories
  • Strategies

It’s unlikely that you’ll know which one is your limitation, but here are a few signs to help you understand which area might need work.

You feel that the things you want are out of reach – there could be a belief in there that’s not serving you well.

You find yourself thinking ‘I can’t’ – there’s possibly a deep rooted belief in there somewhere

You find yourself going out of your way to avoid pain or difficulty – this would normally require work on your values

You find yourself time travelling in your mind, going back to challenging moments or still figuring out why things worked out how they did – this may be a sign that there are some memories that your deeper mind wants to clear up and learn from.

You’ll always be more successful in your life and career when you focus your mind on what you want and where you’re going, instead of focusing on what you want to avoid. The highest intention of the mind is to learn and evolve.

Check out if you have any limiting beliefs

Think of all the things that you can’t do, and why. Combine it within a “because” statement, such as:

Because I did not get a good education, I can’t get the career I want.

Because I’ve spent so long in one career, it’s too late for me to change.

Because I don’t have enough money, I can’t invest in additional training and qualifications.

Now, consider all the things that you perceive you can’t do and make it into a sentence with the because.

Now, check your values

Consider this question and answer it quickly without thinking:

What’s important to you about your career?

What else is important to you?

What else?

Keep asking this until you have a list of about 5-7.

This is NOT something you should analyse too much. The blurted out answers are most likely to be your real values – this will be your subconscious talking.

When you have them, order them in importance.

Ask yourself why each of them are important to you. Go through them one by one, asking why it’s important to you.

If you find yourself saying something that moves you towards a goal, then that’s good. An example for this is “Because when I’m happy, I enjoy life”. This is a ‘towards’ statement.

If you find yourself saying something like: “Because I don’t want…” then you’re limiting yourself.

This statement means that you’re not moving towards a goal, you’re just avoiding a negative. The mind doesn’t handle that well and so it could be limiting you, changing your day to day behaviours at an unconscious level.


If you find yourself going back to old memories, ask yourself, ‘What is there to learn from that event?’.

If it keeps coming back time and time again, then there’s something still to learn that will make you a better version of yourself. A true learning has to be about you. Something that you can do differently, or new actions you can take to move forward.

Once you learn from memories, they change themselves. They’ll get upgraded by you with the wisdom that you have now.

Colleagues chatting and relaxing doing work together without limits

Is NLP Coaching right for me?

If you’ve established that there are some limiting beliefs somewhere in your system, or you’ve discovered some avoidance tactics in your values system, then NLP Coaching will clear these up in 1 or 2 sessions. You can have a look on our coaching page to see what sort of thing NLP sessions can offer you.

What’s the difference between standard coaching and NLP Coaching?

Coaching works on improvement and goals. It can be very useful for developing knowledge and skill.

When you have NLP Coaching, change can occur subconsciously.

I worked with a client recently that would get incredibly frustrated, without really understanding why. After just 1 NLP session, he now doesn’t even need to try and manage it. It’s just changed.

NLP provides the structure and technique for the mind to be directed to where it needs to go in order to make the change.

Price of NLP Coaching in Brighton

Prices for NLP Coaching varies depending on what you’re working on.

An average price for a well-qualified Master Practitioner of NLP is around £300-500 depending on the change being achieved. The question is this: is the change worth it?

I recently helped someone give up smoking because they wanted more focus. This was done in only one session.

An investment of £300 saved thousands of pounds in ongoing costs of cigarettes.

I’ve worked with others than have fulfilled their career goals and achieved £20k pay increases.

How much is that change worth to you?

Any experienced and reputable Practitioner will only work with you if the change means something to you. You need to have the passion and intent to make a change in your life.

If you would like to find out more about the advantages and disadvantages of NLP, we have a great article on this. Alternatively, send me an email at natalie@podhr.co.uk and I’ll be happy to talk you through your options.

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